Wednesday, January 31, 2007

How to Ask For HELP!!!!

I'm usually the kind of person who doesn't need a whole bunch of help with things. Or at least that's how I see myself. I'm a self-starter and a self-motivator who can learn and do anything. Or so I like to think…

The truth is that there are many times when I need help and because I'm the way I am I often don't know when, or how, to ask. I bet there are all kinds of people out there who feel the same way. We've all been in over our heads at one time or another and it's no big deal to call out for a little help now and again. In fact, by asking for help when it's needed, we can make our lives easier and help out those around us.

This last weekend I did a bit of research and found quite a bit (ok a ton) of information on the topic. Turns out that asking for help is harder than I thought!

Asking For Help, A Few Tips

  • One of the hardest parts is knowing when you need help. If you're like me you'll tend to think you can do it all. This often leads to frustration or worse. I don't know how many times I've broken something or pushed a situation beyond easy repair by trying to go it alone. When you start to get stuck, think about your problem and if you can use help—ask.
  • Don't worry about being judged. It's pretty common to feel silly or embarrassed when you can't figure something out, just remember it happens to everyone and there are times when the smart thing to do is to get help.
  • Ask someone you trust if it makes it easier.
  • If you're unsure, think about the consequences of not asking for help.
  • It's sounds simple but before asking, make sure you know what you need help with and what kind of help you need. This'll make it easier for everyone involved. Provide as much detail as you can.
  • Don't wait until it's too late. Ask for help as soon as you think you might need it.

Going to others for help is something we're supposed to learn early on. Maybe we do, but all to often as we get older and more self-reliant (which is obviously a good thing) we tend to forget that everyone could use a little help now and again.

Engineering is the art of making what you want from things you can get.